There is a conversation I seem to be having increasingly often in my therapy room. A new phenomenon...

There is a moment that comes after the ending of a marriage when the practical noise begins to quieten. Friends and family know. Arrangements around children, homes and finances are slowly being worked through. Somewhere in all the noise, hurt and confusion comes an even more personal question: ‘What does my life look like now?’

This is a question individuals or couples arriving in therapy can be carrying quietly. And sometimes they have been asking it for years. Can I stay in a relationship with little or no intimacy?

You have lots of friends. You have a busy job surrounded by people all day long. You may even have a partner and a big family. So why do you feel so lonely?